Introduction:
In today’s blog, we dive into the remarkable journey of Rob, a man whose path to sobriety has taken him from the rugby fields of New Zealand to the running trails of a new, healthier life. Rob’s story is not just about giving up alcohol—it’s about discovering a new purpose and thriving in ways he never imagined possible. As you read on, you’ll find valuable insights into overcoming alcohol addiction, embracing fitness, and the powerful impact of mindfulness and stoic philosophy on living a more fulfilling life.
Early Life and the Role of Alcohol in Sports Culture:
Growing up in New Zealand, Rob was immersed in a sports-centric environment where rugby wasn’t just a game—it was a way of life. Like many teenagers, Rob’s introduction to alcohol came early, and by 15 or 16, drinking had become a regular social activity. The culture within rugby clubs, where alcohol was as much a part of the game as the sport itself, further normalized heavy drinking. This laid the foundation for what would become a significant challenge in Rob’s life.
Escalating Drinking Habits and the Army’s Influence:
Rob’s drinking habits intensified when he joined the army at 17. The military culture, much like the rugby scene, was steeped in heavy drinking. Alcohol became a means to bond with comrades and unwind after rigorous training. Despite the toll it took on his body, Rob’s physical fitness masked the severity of his drinking problem. However, the negative effects of this lifestyle began to catch up with him, leading to a crucial turning point.
The Turning Point: A Moment of Clarity on a Flight to Las Vegas:
Rob’s wake-up call came unexpectedly during a flight to Las Vegas in July 2019. As he watched the movie “A Star is Born” and heard the song “Maybe It’s Time,” Rob had an epiphany that made him question his relationship with alcohol. Although he continued to drink for a few more months, this moment planted the seed for his eventual decision to quit drinking.
Embracing Sobriety: January 2020 and Beyond:
On January 1, 2020, Rob began his journey to sobriety with a commitment to abstain from alcohol for a year. He immersed himself in resources like Russell Brand’s 12-step program and daily meditation practices, which became crucial tools in maintaining his sobriety. Meditation, in particular, helped Rob stay centered and manage stress without turning to alcohol.
If you want to try out a meditation for beginners, try out our very own Sober On A Drunk Planet Meditation, curated by the wonderful Moni!
Running as a New Passion and Path to Wellness:
With sobriety came a renewed focus on physical health. Rob, always a fitness enthusiast, turned his attention to running. Without the burden of hangovers, he was able to push his limits and achieved remarkable milestones in his running journey. By 2020, during the lockdown, Rob took his running to new levels, eventually becoming a qualified running coach.
The Power of Stoic Philosophy in Sobriety:
In addition to meditation, Rob found guidance in stoic philosophy. The teachings of philosophers like Seneca helped him navigate the challenges of sobriety and social situations without alcohol. Stoicism taught Rob to focus on what he could control and let go of unnecessary worries—a mindset that has been instrumental in his transformation.
Stoicism and sobriety go hand in hand. If you want to see why, check out this bestseller by Ryan Holiday here.
Conclusion: Rob’s Inspiring Transformation:
Rob’s journey from a heavy-drinking rugby player and soldier to a sober, accomplished running coach is a powerful reminder of the potential for change. His story highlights the importance of addressing the underlying causes of addiction, whether it’s social anxiety or cultural norms, and using tools like meditation, exercise, mindfulness, and stoic philosophy to build a fulfilling sober life.
If Rob’s journey resonates with you, remember that change is possible. It starts with a single decision—a moment of clarity—and grows with the support of a community and the adoption of healthy practices. Rob’s story is a testament to the incredible life that awaits on the other side of alcohol.
If you need extra support, from a like-minded community of people getting and staying sober, then the Sober On A Drunk Planet Community has your back (we are just a bunch of normal people (minus the alcohol!) trying to tackle life without hangovers!).
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